When someone gets into a fight. When they start quarrelling, being the third party, you will be able to notice some things. I noticed this, when they start quarrelling and beginning to focus on each other flaws and faults, their good points ‘disappears’ entirely…. No matter how much a person has done, when they pick on the bad, all the good stuff they did has no more value.
I find this sad. What if this person has been doing good most of his life, but it gets disregarded because he angered someone? I mean no matter how bad someone has been, there must have been good stuff about them also right?
But it is understandable that when we are angry, we would simply disregard the good, for the bad is bad enough to stain everything. I remember a story from a sermon. it goes like this:
A father notices that his daughters watches movies and many of them shows bad behaviour. He asks them why are they watching such things, they avoided his question by replying saying that such behaviour is only a small part of the movie.
The father often bakes cookies for his daughters. After he asked, he went to bake another batch. The daughters found that the cookies were better than usual. So they asked what did he do differently. His father replied saying that he learned from their neighbour that if he added 10 grams of dog poo into the batter, it will taste better!
Hearing this, his daughters ran to the sink to wash their mouths.
The father amused, said this, ‘Why are you so disgusted? It was only a small part of the cookie!’
He admitted that he did not put in dog poo, he said so to teach them a lesson. It doesn’t matter how little he put in it. even a little will contaminate the entire thing.
This is a good analogy to why there is no such thing as a big sin or small sin, its ALL sin.
I can see myself scolding someone who fumbles too. But i wonder if i will do it out of love? These questions i cannot answer until it happens. I personally have a friend that i get irritated with. I can only see his faults and flaws. It is very difficult for me to work with him, let alone love him…
In ‘Humble Orthodoxy’ by Joshua Harris, I remember this phrase:
One of the mistakes that Christians make is that they learn to rebuke like Jesus did, but not to love like Jesus
It is easy to spot flaws and rebuke them. Yet we tend to be too critical and harsh, instead of helping someone, we might be discouraging them. Assuring someone that you will love them no matter what they do is something i find very comforting. My mentors know my flaws, they know what i lack in, yet they have stuck with me. One precious mentor of mine has been there for me when i stumble for so many times, yet he was still there for me! I really give thanks for that!
8 1 but Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.
2 At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them.3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.
But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.
9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
11 “No one, sir,” she said.
“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
I have friends that smoke. Many act like it is normal, but it pains me to see them harming their bodies like that… I believe as i grow up, i will find friends that does things that i do not approve. I really hope that i will be a good friend to them and love them with all my heart even though they do such things. I will not approve, but i will stick with them, like how my mentors stuck with me! Like how my parents still love me! Like how God still loves me! Like how Jesus loved the woman.
You know, there is this part of the passage where Jesus bend down and wrote on the ground. I liked what my pastor once said, “I like to imagine Jesus writing the names of the Pharisees, then writing their sins, it proves that everyone has sin and God knows about it”
I know judgement day will come where God will judge people, all the way from Adam to the last man on Earth. I wonder how will he do so? But God is a just God, i am sure He will make a great judgement!
God, there is still so much i dunno. I pray that i will not pick on people’s flaws. I pray that i will be active in rebuking, but i will be active in loving as well! God, allow me to remember the good and the bad, for it is not in my place to judge
Thank You God!