=248= Words of Melancholy: Choleric

My personality types has always been changing.

Back in secondary school, I was involved in Boys’ Bridgade and was a leader in the CCA. With the CCA not doing very well, I had to step up and be more choleric to drive things, to persuade people and overall had to be more of a leader.

Then, after I went to Poly and had a heartbreak, I started to treasure my friends more and became Sanguine. I basically learned how to invest into people’s lives more and how to just spend time with people out of work. Something I still give thanks for!

Then, I realized certain things aren’t right with my actions as a Sanguine, so I cut back on my nonsense that brings no depth to the relationship whatsoever. In doing so, I slowly become a Phlegmatic. I began to relax and started to take things at a time and learned how to do things at the right time.

Recent events has rendered me no choice but to go right back to be a Choleric…. and I honestly HATE it. I hate it that I have to be the one that initiates stuff. I hate it that I have to be the guy that pushes people. I hate it that I have to be the guy that reminds people that we have work to do. I hate that I have to be the guy that tells people to be serious. I hate that I have to be the guy that wants his way. I hate to be the guy with the short temper. I hate to be the guy that rejects people’s ideas. I hate to be the guy that gets annoyed at what I think is wrong. I hate to be the guy that works hard and make everyone feel bad. I hate to be the guy that keeps check of the time. I hate to be the guy that has people annoyed at me because I remind them to do work. Honestly, being a Choleric again just reminded me of why I stopped being one in the first place. There are things WAY more important than work and progress; friendships are something that I really treasure, but the me now cannot stand no progress at all. Being Choleric has its advantages of course, I get work done so efficiently, but my heart is just sadden by how much I lost as well. Can you not be angry at me?

Recently, explaining an experience of God’s presence has been more of a literature exercise than a heart exercise. The more I see people trying to explain and pursue it, the more I hear jargon. Goodness. Can you please stop overcomplicating things? Can you stop using words and phrases that people don’t understand? Where has the simple explanation gone? Let’s try not using the words you prefer to use. Let’s try explaining the word you just used with simple English words that everyone, even a non-Christian, can understand. I wonder if you can stand it?

Stop throwing in infomation; stop dumping every good point that you think it is good for everyone to hear. Stop. Having such infomation is good and I trust that it has benefitted your walk, but simply dumping every ounce of infomation is not good. Think it through, think about what you say and whether is it in line AND if sharing it is going to help. If not, it is better not to share, for it might confuse people rather than helping them.

Anyone that answers a difficult question quickly could have a few reasons why they can do it. First, they been through it and can answer with certainty. These people are able to share how and handles on how to tackle the problem. People like these have the right to do so. Second, they see the answer sheet so they know the answer, but they have no idea how to work out the problem. They can still answer the question, but they shouldn’t answer proudly or give advise for the question, for they themselves have no idea how to do solve it. Third, they have tried, but not yet solved it, so they give possible solutions. I much rather enjoy answers from this party than from the second, for at least they have tried and there is a possibility that out of all the possible answers there is one that is right! Lastly, they do not know and they just bomb the answer. These people have no right to answer the question at all for they only confuse people.

Of course I am not just talking about a math question in the last paragraph; I am actually ranting about another incident when a person said something that is easier said than done, which was what I almost posted, but I decided not to it because it was a bit too much. Let me just leave the issue as this.

Oh well, I can’t just end this post on an angry or melancholic mood. So I am gonna share on today’s J333. 🙂

Sam was leading today and it was really great, I was ministered to very much. She sang, “Spirit touch your church” and the line “As Jesus cares for me” just broke my heart. Lord, I am so sorry. I am so sinful, yet, you still love me; you still care for me. I began to declare the song for me. Changing the lyrics and singing, “Spirit touch my heart, stir the heart of mine, revive me Lord, with your passion once again, I want to care for others like Jesus cares for me, let your rain fall upon me” 

It was honestly so long since I last broke down before the Lord because of a song. Thank You Sam for leading! 🙂

I then saw a difference between two Sang Chors that I know of. One simply speaks too much, tries to help but is not helping at all. The other, asks questions to help people release their thoughts. I never seen some people pour out that much. Then I simply ask the Lord, what makes them different? Well, the Lord did not answer specifically, but I noticed that the first is quick to answer while the second stops and think. Woe to the one that is quick to answer, for he will hurt people. Oh well, it could that the second one is older and more mature too.

I want to be a strong but gentle person that is simple and real, but is not lazy and would pursue and continue to love God. Pray against selfishness and arrogance. Love and treasure people.

Oh, I find myself really stupid; I keep tempting myself today. Time to take a step back(literally) and be a more aware person that is not flirting. Stop being a flirt and stop having contact. Stop trying to get attention from people by saying things. Stop just stop. Enough is enough. Lord, please satisfy me.

Now Lord, please give me rest.


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