Let me start with something that happened to me a few months ago.
One night, my family craved pizza. So we went online to order. To not start anything, i shall not name names, so let’s call them company A and company B. Both A and B have a delivery guarantee, that they will be able to deliver the pizza to your doorstep within 30 minutes. We went to company A’s website to order. We chose the flavours, we chose the crust and chose the package deal, all ready, we clicked ‘Confirm my Order’. They rejected our order. WHAT? What kind of stupid company would reject business? A good one.
The reason they rejected our order was because they have too many orders. They can’t accept anymore. So being slightly annoyed, we went to company B’s website and did the same thing. Company B accepted the order. So we waited for 30 minutes, not even a call. Then another 30 minutes passed. I have fear that they delivered pizza to the wrong place(hopefully, this never happens). So i called up the company, they told me that my pizza was on the way. The pizza only came after 30 more minutes. They were late by an hour with no compensation(I forgot to mention that company A has a policy of giving a voucher for a free pizza on next order if they are late). Not only that, the pizza was cold.
So which company will you order from next time?
Ok, obviously i am not talking about which company to order from. I am talking about taking up ministries. WAY too often i see people my age killing themselves by taking up too many ministries on their plate, but can’t you see? By taking too many orders(ministries) you will give up on the quality and guarantee that you have given your customer. So the next time the customer wants to order, he will be less likely to order from you.
When someone ask you for help, he asked you because he believes you have the capability and the availability to do it. Capability is something that can be improved on. Availability is a choice. Yet, availability can only be obtained by managing your time. If you take up too much, that is not managing. Not only that, because you lack time, you will have to compromise other things, quality of the work, your other commitments, etc etc. This is one way you can feel horrible about the year, that you do not put enough effort into your ministries, not because you didn’t but you can’t.
Always remember, we are human, we are not robots(even robots have limitations), we will grow tired if we commit too much. As you can see from the example, i strongly believe that it is better not to commit to the commitment than to commit and do your worse. If committing to another ministry is going to kill you, say ‘NO’!
Why do people even commit to so much anyway? Is it because there aren’t anybody to step up? Or is it you don’t want to step down? Is it because you do not want to disappoint anyone? Or because you don’t want yourself to disappoint others?
I dare not come out with a solid answer, but to anyone who is going to take up a lot of ministries, please don’t kill yourself.
I say this to no particular person, so please don’t take offence! Learn to love yourself more. Don’t you know your body is a temple of the Hoy Spirit, who lives in you given by God? You do not belong to yourself. You were bought a a high price. So you must honour God with your body. How can you honour God with your body if it is distracted and ripped apart by commitments?
CS Lewis wrote int The Great Divorce(This is a REALLY good book! It recently became my favourite CS Lewis book, go for it!)
(The Teacher)’…There have been men before now who got so interested in proving the existence of God that they came to care nothing for God Himself…as if the good Lord had nothing to do but exist! There have been some who were so occupied in spreading Christianity that they never gave a thought to Christ. Man! Ye see it in small matters. Did ye never know a lover of books that with all his first editions and signed copies had lost the power to read them? Or an organiser of charities that had lost all love for the poor? It is the subtlest of all the snares.’
Let me end with this. Never lose sight of who you serve, else you lose sight of who you are.